a dead gorilla and a bad mother

I’m going to hide behind my keyboard and state my opinion because some do-gooders who are afraid to cast blame and accept personal responsibility, on Facebook, are pissing me off and I don’t want to debate anything. My opinion isn’t about to be changed by diatribe and I am not going to change anyone else’s mind by voicing mine.

A Gorilla was shot and killed in a Cincinnati zoo because after saving a 4 year old from drowning in it’s enclosure, he proceeded to drag him around by the ankle and the staff responsible for the Gorilla feared for the boys life, so the endangered silverback, was shot dead. The animal behaviour was one of protection. He removed the child from the water, which he considered dangerous. He removed the child from the screaming people, which he considered dangerous and towards the back of his enclosure and towards his keepers.

Have you watched and more importantly, listed to the video?

The mother is calmly saying she loves the kid, from behind the THREE barriers, separating her from her son. Three.

Every single adult on the planet knows and understands that a child can dart away in a moment. No one, including me, faults the nature of a normal busy child as something the mother should have been able to control 100%. Kids get away from you. Then in a blind moment of panic, a parent screeches the child’s name normally while in pursuit of said child so they can be grabbed away from the harm they seem intent upon inflicting on themselves. This is the normal, day to day life of a parent/toddler which can be exponentially exasperated by the child’s excitement from a much anticipated activity, such as being at a zoo.

So explain to the public, awesome Darwinian mother of the year, on how your child was out of your vision long enough to climb over not 1, not 2, but 3 barricades and you didn’t notice his absence? Explain to me, how many minutes went by where you failed to notice your child was no longer holding your hand? Enlighten the public on how you were not in hot pursuit of your little spider monkey, as he went up and over each barricade or if unable to do so, that you weren’t calling others for help in catching him or stopping him?

You see,  I AM judging you. I have the right as a mother of multiple kids who were all under the age of 4 at the same time. I know how it is to be in public with them when they are young and excited. As the mother of an autistic child who used to run, I get how hard it is to manage a child who does not listen and who you have to be on top of constantly to keep safe. It’s why you have to plan ahead for these types of excursions. I have been in positions where my children’s lives were in danger because of a situation beyond my control and I know the fear of not being able to help your child. It’s brutal.

And it’s why I am questioning your parenting.

Your tone of voice did not change indicating the urgency needed to react. You did not pursue your child. You did not call for help. You did not notice your child was missing for long enough for them to climb several barricades. You completely failed as a mother and as a result you placed your child in harms way. You were negligent and painfully unaware of the responsibility that comes when you have a busy toddler, to keep them restrained and under control. You may just be so overwhelmed you just didn’t notice your child was missing. If that’s the case, then maybe you should not have the responsibility of having young kids in your home unsupervised.

A gorilla is dead and it’s your fault. your child is traumatized and again, it’s your fault. You should be investigated by social services as you have failed publicly at being a suitable parent. You should have to pay 50% of the cost of the Gorilla’s loss as an endangered species. Because the zoo is responsible for the other 50%.

They should have had to foresight to protect the Gorilla from stupid parents.

 

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11 Responses to a dead gorilla and a bad mother

  1. I’m torn on this one, only because the people who were next to her said one second she was holding his hand and the next second he had scrambled through. Witnesses didn’t say bad mother.

    That said, my daughter was a hyper little thing and would wander off in .5 seconds once she could walk, so when we went out, when she was about 2, I had what we called her bracelet. It was a pink elastic leash essentially that connected her wrist to my wrist. People looked at me funny but I didn’t give a damn. She got to feel a little independent and explore the area within a few feet of mommy and I never didn’t know where she was. There isn’t a snowball’s chance in hell that she could have gotten herself into a dangerous situation like that.

    I can’t say the woman was a bad mother. It happened very very fast.

    Then, the gorilla dragged him around for 10 minutes. Several times this has happened with a female gorilla, and they hold the child, treating it with care and will deliver it to the people door. This male gorilla was not acting in that same manner, but dragging him roughly by the foot. The video was hard to watch, and I don’t see that they had any choice but to shoot him. It’s sad all the way around. 😦 Sad for the confused animal, sad for the little boy, sad for the mother. 😦

    • rougedmount says:

      i have as much info as anyone else…which is what’s on the media…i HAD a crazy assed child. and part of me goes, but for the grace of a merciful God, that could have been my kid. then i think about all the precautions i took in place. hiring a babysitter to accompany me when my spouse couldn’t so i could run after crazy child and my others would have supervision.
      i am just so **frustrated** with people not being accountable for their actions and taking responsibility when things screw up. and i am measuring her against my own actions. I would have scaled the fence to distract the gorilla. no one would have been able to stop me. no one. there would not have been a ‘mommy loves you’, there would have been a screaming mother saying ‘over here! over here!”
      like you..i tried to give the benefit of the doubt…but taking multiple kids to a zoo or public venue when you can not manage them all, is not something a parent should do. if it means waiting til you have help…then you wait.

  2. Michelle says:

    I’ve tried to refrain from blaming the mother because I certainly understand how little ones can get away when you turn your head for just a couple seconds, but was not aware the child had time to cross 3 barriers. Wow!

    • rougedmount says:

      that’s the thing…i don’t care how fast a little one slips away…as it’s happened to all adults minding kids at some point…but 3 barriers is a lot of vertical climbing to get through unobserved. i can’t imagine not noticing your kid was gone that long. and i can’t imagine calling 911 when all of my focus would be on the removal of my child from the danger and have someone else speaking to the emergency operator.

  3. pantiewearer says:

    Bottom line………………You and you alone are responsible for your children. There is only one reason why that child fell into that pen. Parents, YOU fucked up! You have to watch children every second, especially in a ZOO! Hello a Zoo! Wake up.

    • rougedmount says:

      i truly feel that when a child is in danger in public, that the situation needs to be examined so that the parent can be taught why and how it happened and if the situation was preventable. parents should do their best. but some parents best is barely adequate and they need to be taught to do better. perhaps this is a case of a mother who is overwhelmed and needs help. otherwise the situation would never have happened.

  4. Ned's Blog says:

    What struck me most about this video was that the gorilla was in a protective stance over the child, not an attack stance. As you said, he pulled the child from the water and to dry land, then stood over him. Like you, I’ve had multiple kids in my care while in busy, hectic and exciting places. That’s when’s, as a parent, you need town be hyper aware of where your children are and what they’re doing at all times. Do I understand how a child could get away momentarily? Sure. But in the time it took him to crawl through the barriers and into danger, she should’ve had the time to get her child’s attention and stop him from ever getting that far. I mourn the gorilla and the horrible experience that child will carry forever.

    • rougedmount says:

      exactly! adult male gorillas have a single role in life. to protect their families. anyone who watches a national geographic documentary can see that gorillas actions would have been normal behaviour for the situation. and when you look at the mom’s behaviour and actions? i unequivocally state that they were NOT normal protective mother mode. i get that some people freeze in an emergency and some people do not have that fight response in them when a situation arises that can place them in potential harm. but i have never witnessed a mother fail to place herself in harms way to protect her child, until this video. i guess that’s why i am reacting so strongly to it. in my world, i would have been seconds behind my son as he was going up and over the barricades and i would have been shouting for others to call 911 and to get the zoo keepers as i did all in my power to get between my child and the gorilla. i would have needed to be physically restrained. i dont get a mother who just stands back. it’s so far beyond why i consider normal, that i feel there is something wrong with mom.
      i truly feel she needs to be investigated just to ensure that she is not as overwhelmed as she seems to be by her inability to supervise her own children.

  5. Liras says:

    i blame the parents, for not having the foresight to know they were undermanned. They were with wild animals at the zoo, not at a small park with a playground and swings. Either recruit others to assist on these type of outings, leave some kids at home w/ a sitter until they are old enough to truly behave or…don’t go to certain venues. That child could have sustained permanent damage from the fall, let alone the animal taking him as a threat and tossing him around.

    People often do not train their children to obey them from the time they are ambulatory. Instead those parents lol and grin and think it charming when children ages 2 and up defiantly run about. Magically, they assume others will become additional impromptu helpers and will automatically lend a hand. Well, no. Not only it is not the job of strangers to police random children but most ppl who don’t have kids with them…are not even paying attention but taking care of their own business.

    I have looked up at the grocery, hardware superstore store and other places, to see a child about to pull down a display, among other things. It is parents who assume we all all participating in being kindergarten teachers, ready to jump in and help. Again, nope.

    Luckily, the child wasn’t damaged this time but until people make an effort to enforce discipline, this won’t be the last of this type of incident.

    • rougedmount says:

      i tend to be judgmental over this type of thing. I had a difficult autistic child and I struggled. I know the struggle. I lived it. And so i expect a certain amount of diligence from a mother. truly.

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