as a woman, i place a great deal of importance on a mans state of erection, in knowing if he is aroused or not. foreplay serves to excite both people and when you feel a mans cock and he is flaccid, it makes you question his excitement or enjoyment of what you are doing to him and with him. i realize things change for men as they get older, but it’s not something i am able to discuss with people i know as it seems to be a tender topic for men who do not like talking about a soft dick while enjoying a sexual encounter.
if the only time a man gets hard enough for penetration, is at the time he is also ready to ejaculate, then that is a MAJOR issue for his female partner. it takes away all aspects of the psychological arousal which comes with seeing his body respond to what you are doing, as well as the physical arousal of enjoying an actual penetrative sexual encounter, which many women need in order to achieve orgasm.
i see this type of a flaccid cock, during a sexual encounter as a male sex issue, related to an underlying medical issue which is concerning. but it may simply be a normal part of a mans ageing process. though i find that hard to countenance. a healthy man, gets a sustainable erection. and i don’t understand a man not seeking medical intervention if his erections are not as rigid as they once were or if they are totally absent during arousal.
i hate to be a debbie downer, but as a woman, i don’t want to have a sexual encounter with a man who can not achieve an erection. what’s the point? i want and need the erection otherwise i am comfortable with servicing my own needs with the assistance of online media outlets and an interesting assortment of silicon tools, designed for such an occasion. that soft cock, impacts my arousal, because it mentally pulls me into questioning why he isn’t hard.
so, as a public service to all women, if you are having erection issues. if you do not stay hard, have trouble getting hard, then do not look for sexual gratification from a woman until you fix your mechanical issues. if you ask us to go for a drive in a sports car and then sit us in a parked volvo, we are going to get out and walk home and never accept an offer to get into your car again, even when you tell us you fixed your issues and perception problems.
your soft cock is an issue for the women you invite to share a bed. get it fixed or go solo. hans solo. because the force is no longer with you and we don’t want to get sexually aroused then be frustrated by something you knew would happen. why do that to someone? it’s mean and inconsiderate. and it makes you out to be an asshole who only cared about his needs and not a partners. get it fixed before you get into a woman’s bed.