Why has my spouse refused to listen to me about the decline of our marriage and our horribly negligent sex life? The answer is simple. Because I have stayed, it means I was not serious. Some men actually need to have you leave; to file for and proceed with a divorce, for them to understand that there was a problem in a marriage. As you can imagine, this can create problems, if your intent was to actually ‘stay’ married.
You can not force someone to believe you, even if you are clear in what you say. Your ability to speak does not ensure their ability to understand you. Unfortunately, some people are geared to learn the hard way and only when looking at relationships post mortem as opposed to being flexible enough to listen and adapt while in them. My spouse is one of these men. And I was too stubborn to believe he couldn’t learn, if I just explained a different way.