I am so sick of ignorant people who think they are educated about autism; sprout off about things they have no understanding of. It triggers an internal violence in me that makes me want to smack the shit out of them until they shut up. I despise people hiding behind the comments on message boards. You don’t know the story behind other people’s experience. You don’t know the pain they have endured or sacrifices they have made. Ignorant comments designed to be hurtful, only make you seem like a pathetic online attention seeker, which means in real life you are probably not well liked or more likely, useless.
Claiming authority on an autistic child and their needs, because your child has ADHD, is like my saying I know about being paralyzed because I broke a leg once. There IS no comparison between the two. Ever. They are completely different, even if they may share a trait or two, but the experience of living with them and dealing with them, is vastly different depending on how each of the disorders manifests itself.
I just love soapbox preaching, ignorant people who like to snark and rudely comment. These kind of ‘one up, my situation is worse than yours’ parents; they should never have reproduced in the first place. The reality is, their kids have profoundly worse issues than kids on the ‘autism spectrum’ because they are suffering from having a parent who is a fucking idiot as well as being born with a cognitive or behavioral problem.
Oh! And adults who have chosen to not have children should say nothing, EVER, when it comes to parenting children, teenagers, families who deal with autism because they live in a world that they have NO understanding of. I don’t care if you went to school with a kid who you are positive had Aspergers or your Uncle who was diagnosed with it at 37.
Seriously. Shut up or stop writing. Even if you work with someone who has Aspergers, you do not have the 24-7 physical/emotional relationship with them that you are forced to deal with for the rest of your life. You don’t know stress or pressure. I am in no way de-valuing your experience, but you have NO comprehension of mine, so stop trying to make comparisons when they are not warranted and for GODS SAKE do NOT try and imply your situation is worse/more stressful/the same as, mine. It’s not. And you are an idiot.