He refused to discuss our relationship, the sexual issues we have and the problems in the marriage. I tried several times, stating that I was once again at the point where I could no longer ignore him, ignoring me and my needs. Of course my bringing it up, turned into a mini lecture because he passive aggressively, says NOTHING. As if his refusal to speak a word will simply negate anything I have said.
Fine. I told him that his refusal this time meant that it was going to change things between us irrevocably and he could get used to the idea or he could file for divorce. All things he has heard 100’s of times and why he simply doesn’t react to it. The fact is, by my staying, he thinks he doesn’t have to change or even try. He could catch me in bed with another man and he could find a reason to explain it away so he didn’t have to deal with the reality in front of him.
He doesn’t know it yet, but there isn’t going to be anymore sex between us. The last time he attempted and failed, will actually be the last time. I am sure he will notice eventually and when I remind him of what was said, he will be steadfast in his refusal of what happened and blame our issues on my refusing his advances and not the fact that his advances are 2 to 4 months apart and the duration of the event itself, is seconds.