flaccid is not a state that inspires arousal for me.
for some women, it simply doesn’t matter if a man does or does not get hard when he is administering sexual gratification to a woman, but personally speaking, if a man is intent on arousing me, if he fails to achieve or maintain an erection, then my interest in continuing anything intimate deflates as quickly as a banged souffle. I am done, get your hands off me and pass me a flannel onesie as I bolt out the door. a soft cock is really the canary in the mine shaft.
a soft cock is not a joking matter, especially when it’s chronically unable to perform the function you expect it to during mutual stimulation. if said dick belongs to your spouse or long term partner then you can work through the issue in a supporting and loving manner…unless years and decades pass and then in which case you have to take charge of your own sexuality and make decisions that may not be compatible with the other persons views on monogamy.
but when a man who is having an affair, seeks a woman out based on the notion that he is not sexually satisfied at home, what is the purpose when he can’t get a hard on with the potential lover? seriously. just a wild guess here, but if you are experiencing sexual dysfunction inside of your marriage and out, then perhaps…just perhaps…the issue is YOU and it’s time to stop blaming women, stress, work, kids, etc and get your ass (and your dick) into the Dr to have an honest conversation about your inability to crank the crane.
your soft dick is not my issue. i already live with one man who can not perform and i am certainly not going to invite another man into my sexual life simply to frustrate me when it matters. deal with your flaccid cock and then turn to the woman you married to support you through your health challenge instead of blaming her and your lifestyle for it and seeking an understanding woman outside of your marriage as they simply will not care about it. if your role is as a lover and you can’t do it, you’re fired, as there are hard candidates waiting to take your place who take their overall health seriously.