What makes a man who has a nice, functional, serviceable penis, one of average length and slightly thicker than average, want to be told he has a very small and inadequate one? Why does it arouse him to be told that the woman he has access to in an intimate fashion, would prefer something bigger inside of her body? Or something more substantial to service her sexual needs? Why is it he likes to hear that her actual sexual appetite can not be matched by the obvious disparity between what she needs to be sexually replete and what he has between his thighs to use on her?
I believe the simple answer lay in the fact that most men like to think that a sexual woman, a woman who enjoys carnality, is in possession of a hidden ravenous sexual appetite and they actually need to consume cock on a scale that he is unable to meet or to match. Her lust just needs the correct trigger to ignite it. I think many men find a sexually dominating woman arousing because it brings them back to their youthful adolescence and pre-pubescence when women and girls, were magical creatures of sexual arousal and responsible for sexual awakenings in them. Present yet unapproachable.
When all of these new, sexual feelings started coursing through his young male body, the source of many of the tingling sensations was those ephemeral creatures who he did not understand how to communicate with. Most of the girls his age were standoffish, mean even, and disengaged. Many were aloof and unapproachable, leaving him standing on the edge of the event, staring at this female form who made his little penis get hard and he had no idea what to do about it. He may have had attention from older girls or teenaged babysitters who had boyfriends, who actually spoke to him, giving him a fixation for his arousal.
Perhaps in bringing him back to this place in his mind by talking about or referencing his small penis, is why he finds the idea of a woman, a grown woman who is allowed to touch and fondle, makes him so terribly excited? He is with this feminine specimen who was the endless source of his own sexual awareness, the soft embodiment of all his sexual fantasies, but he is brutally and painfully aware that her experience and her preference is for a disembodied cock of mythical proportions to make her submit to it and the sensual pleasure it contains. He is comparing himself to older and more experienced ‘men’, when he was still a ‘boy’.
Average does not exist in fantasy or it’s portrayal of erotica. There are no ‘average cocks’, no ‘average’ labia or sexual responses. Average is for artistic expression and not sexual titillation. At best, his own average penis is a smaller representation of what she would use to satisfy herself on, if all other options are unavailable to her. His little penis is serviceable and brings a certain amount of comfort and gentle tactile stimulation but it is not the renting of flesh that he believes accompanies being penetrated by a weighted and thickly veined cock. The cock of his imagination and the center of his fantasies surrounding the woman he wants to sexually please.
I think that when a man sees the capacity for a woman’s pussy to stretch and accommodate an exceptionally large endowment, either in real life, through porn or the use of large toys, he compares his own tiny dick to the one he sees entering the woman being taken, and he knows he can not possibly accomplish the same thing. He wonders if he has the ability, through the tepid use of his smaller penis, to even please her at all; if her body is capable of taking something inside of it, so vastly different than his own, how could what little he has to offer sexually be satisfying at all? In truth, is it even worth trying? Becoming a cuckold either in real life or by virtue of using big toys, makes his entire sexual identity support his partners sexual reality of being able to sexually accommodate a much larger cock.
When a woman lets him use toys to penetrate her, when he sees her positive and very sexual response to being fucked by a cock of substantive size, he immediately compares her reaction to the ones she has had with penetration using his little penis. He is reminded of those older girls who preferred those older boys who had much bigger cocks than his. He is reminded that he has to stay at home and not be touched while she goes out and will be serviced by the bigger (and older?) men, with bigger and heavier cocks. He is left in sexual frustration, accepting what she has to offer him, when and if she returns, because that is also beyond his control as well. Sex is her domain and he is a servant to fulfill her needs by any means necessary and even by proxy if required.
Many times he will want to repeat this pattern as he gets older and matures into his own manhood. His preference develops for a sexually hungry woman who needs the ‘bigger man experience’ so he can achieve the same level of subconscious excitement that started to form when he was much younger. This can be exaggerated vastly when there is a disparity between the physical size of his body and the actual size of his penis, both soft and erect. Maybe the bigger the size different, the more a man might develop anger issues or have a hard time accepting the limited endowment he does have. He perceives a woman being much more disappointed with the discovery of his little penis being attached to a larger, taller, handsome man. He simply doesn’t have the ‘whole package”.
The more average or under endowed he is as an adult, the more he may focused on the formative years of his sexual feelings and wanting to use it as his sexual catalyst. He can internalize this and develop a self loathing and resentment of his inability to achieve the state of manhood he believed was possible from external sources from a young age or he can develop coping mechanisms which allow him to use his functional cock in a way that incorporates his earliest fantasies of a woman needing a large cock with the reality of his present sexual possibilities, with a willing and present partner.
Why do grown men who have an average endowment, want to be told how small they are? Perhaps it’s because they are aroused by a sexually powerful woman who is a voracious consumer of the male flesh and his seminal essence. Being reminded of the smallness of his penis means that her choice to have him as a primary partner, means he has secured what many others covet. She is a succubus who consumes male flesh, and could at any time accept any offer to try and assuage her volatile and seismic, physical, orgasmic needs. He is simply a bystander to a wonder of nature and if he is fortunate, may participate at some level, as she so chooses.
Perhaps it highlights a mans voyeuristic tendencies, because he can not just fantasize about the same things that triggered all those initial sexual feelings when he was so young, but he gets to live as an adult man with the arousal of someone he can hyper sexualize in his real life, even if it never is actually acknowledged out loud. Inside of his mind, he diminishes his sexual abilities because of his diminutive size, which justifies his excitement in thinking that his partner would be happier with sex with someone with a larger cock, similar to the women who were of sexual interest to him, when he was just entering into sexual awareness.