So many men are scared to death of emotions. Told from the time they are little to “be a man”, “don’t cry”, “be strong”. So many men grow up completely incapable of discussing emotions, and scared to death when emotions are displayed openly or are reciprocated. I realize not all are like that. Some learn through their parents, past lovers, or even a spouse, that emotions are not to be feared, but embraced, as they are the source of joy and happiness in life. Of course they are also the source of pain and suffering, but you have to take the bad with the good, don’t you?
Men are afraid a woman is going to go bat shit crazy and ruin everything, just because she believes the crap he tells her, and ends up emotionally investing in him and had the gall to return his emotional outpouring. I am not looking for a fucking saviour or replacement spouse. An affair by its very nature is a LIMITED relationship even if you have emotional context. What is so fucking hard to understand about that? Inexperienced men that are uncomfortable with any emotion that you display become panicked. Reality evokes an instinct to flee, run and hide. Because it scares them to death.