the fears with women in allowing a relationship to develop where there are multiple partners are focused on the competitive nature of resource management and priority placement in your partners affections. when it kicks in and there is fear of being left for a younger, newer, tighter version of who you used to be, it creates drama. it’s the primary reason that women do not want to share their partners willingly. they don’t believe their partner has the ability to return to them with 100% accuracy or without thoughts of his other sexual partners running visually through his head.
the basic premise is men have relationships to get sex..women have sex to secure relationships.
fundamental differences between the sexes stem from this very ideal. we are wired differently. when you have a woman who is eager to engage in multiple partners, i can guarantee you that she has had some psychological trauma in her past that has caused her to have ‘issues’. how many issues she has is dependent on her personal situation. the point is she is damaged and will eventually act out from it in risky behaviors or she will seek help to heal herself.
for a man, sex is about orgasm. he either wants his own or wants the powerful feeling of giving one. if he can obtain sex easily he will maintain the relationship at the level the woman is looking to engage in. how much of a connection she wants is related to her own sense of self worth.
it is very easy for a man to use that to his advantage and I have nothing against it because it’s a lesson women learn at a very young age. Sex is more than just sex for many people and it is also much less than some people imagine it to be. the imbalance of the experience is what people try and rectify by searching for someone who makes them feel valued in the process and why most women who do agree to sex with multiple partners in an open relationship, eventually want to settle down and partner up.