My advice to newly married people who are struggling with the sudden lack of sex in your relationship, after you get married. Do not waste years of your life in a sexless marriage, because when it comes down to it, it’s not really about sex anyway. It’s about a passive aggressive response to an intimacy void within the marriage that your partner will not be able to overcome, unless they admit they have an issue and then focus all of their energy into the therapy they will need to overcome it.
I know you love them, but you can’t fix them, and I promise you things are going to get worse and it will change who you are completely to be constantly rejected by the person you love. Have the confrontational talk with them at a marriage counselor’s office and put a plan of action into place to help them overcome their child hood traumas which has created this dichotomy in your partner. If they fail to follow through with what they need to do, for themselves and for your marriage, then you MUST initiate divorce proceedings in order to save yourself from the trauma that is going to come after 5-10 years of you living as a co-dependent to your partner, enabling them to continually abuse you by withholding their physical intimacies from you.