AAA -arrogant, adulterous, asshole

It’s so wonderful to see you write conciliatory tones of praise to a wife who you destroyed by cheating on her. You made a conscious choice to not just have an affair but to engage in multiple affair liaisons over almost the entire course of your marriage. Of course you are sorry now; now you have been caught you have to try and seem to make amends or come off looking like the worst sort of adulterous jerk.

Will you use mental health as a scapegoat? Despair the day you succumbed to a temptation too strong to resist? How about blaming it as the result of alcohol use? Let’s choose a vice and blame that instead of your complete lack of moral character and absolute immaturity. The reality is you are a selfish, narcissistic, self serving asshole who can not be faithful because you traded the peace of your family to enjoy the chase of getting your next piece of ass.

Your wife may actually be stupid enough to continue to live in a state of self induced hysterical blindness pretending that the marriage counselling she insisted upon and you heartily agreed to going to is working and that you are suddenly changing to become a better husband and father, as a disproportionate result of the mediocre efforts. But I see you for who and what you are. And when you look at me, looking at you? You know I see it and it’s why you avoid me.

While she is sitting there in a state of check mate, thinking she has all the options in the world as you go forward into the blissful days of recovery, you and I see how she’s been set up by all your purposefully crafted moves and how you can end things any time you want; but you just keep on letting her think she has some control in what’s happening. You just want to stabilize her so you can fuck around once again while she pretends nothing is wrong. How sweet of you.

 

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18 Responses to AAA -arrogant, adulterous, asshole

  1. Ned's Blog says:

    I’m sure for some men, based upon descriptions of yourself in a recent post, they are intimidated by your looks. However, for a man like this, I’d imagine your intelligence is far more threatening. It’s no wonder he can’t look you in the eye.

    Well said; I only wish for you that it wasn’t something that needed to be said in the first place.

    • rougedmount says:

      you know how there are moments when someone has known you for a long time, that you know you can not get away with saying something that may be a half truth? it instantly raises their eyebrow in an unspoken question? you can see it in their face as they know you know and are trying to decide to call them on it or not. even if it goes unsaid…that look? calls them on it. human expression can be so amazing at times..such an intricate language all on its own.

      • Ned's Blog says:

        I think some of us — writers in particular — are more aware of those subtle, body-language nuances that take place. People who can recognize someone’s subtle displeasure, sudden understanding or subdued interest get much farther in this world — in relationships, business, etc. — than others.

      • rougedmount says:

        you know i feel that because i am hyper aware of it, i have been in the very unique position of being able to explain expressions and meanings to my oldest son who has aspergers. it’s part of the reason why i think God gave us to each other. It’s been exhaustive and it made me aware of how much goes unsaid in the run of normal interactions.

      • Ned's Blog says:

        One of my two sons also has Asperger’s, and we came into each other’s lives when my wife and I found each other. Humor is also very often about recognizing and communicating subtlety, and when we first came into each other’s lives he often took humor as being something at his expense — which, as you know, is common with Asperger’s. Over the last five years (he’s 14 now), he has developed a terrific sense of humor. We joke a lot — puns, observations, satire, play on words — and it has done amazing things. He relates more with his peers, is less moody and recognizes social cues he never did before.

        My life was changed by my stepfather, and I can’t help but think — like you — that God guided us into each other’s lives. I like to think I am giving back some of what was given to me.

        I do believe we are placed into people’s lives for a reason. I have no doubt God placed your son in your care because of your strength; it takes a special kind of person to understand and empathize on that level. I marvel at my wife’s insightfulness, and followed her example from the very beginning. Over the years, we have made each other into better parents — which, to me, only underscores the belief that there is a greater plan at work.

      • rougedmount says:

        ~amen to that~
        and you would never know it from most of my writing in here, but i am considered exceptionally funny in real life..other people say so..the scary thing is i can twist words and expressions into something funny simply from the sheer volume of practice i have at doing it on a daily basis with my son.
        i know you have heard it before, but the gift you gave her from accepting and loving her kids..and dealing with the child with issues? beyond priceless…there is a special place in heaven for you for this single thing as you make a choice every day to keep doing it. you are a good man.

      • Ned's Blog says:

        Judging from your turn of phrase in writing, I have no doubt you have a terrific sense of humor, and obviously good taste in humor columnists 😉

        And thanks for the kind words. I feel like I’m in a pretty special place already.

      • rougedmount says:

        i have awesome taste in humor columnists…even ones i have not personally tasted.

      • Ned's Blog says:

        Hahaha!

        Touché 😉

  2. Catnipness says:

    Oh my goodness. So spiritual and profound. Darling your writing is sanctification to hearts and souls.

  3. mckismeisreallyme says:

    my youngest is also on the spectrum and like you, I have found that because of him, I have found a way to express myself in a manner that resonates with him. and I am much more aware of nuances and subtleties around me. thank you for sharing your words and your writing. always on mark.

    • rougedmount says:

      so you know the dance of expression explanation all too well…i am in need of a mother mental health week end..lol

      • mckismeisreallyme says:

        shit only a weekend?! tell me your secret! I need a week at least. And don’t get me wrong, I love my son, he is the light of my life. It’s dealing with everyone around him and darling husband that’s taxing 😉

      • rougedmount says:

        ooooh … aaaaaaa-men
        sometimes i think i need a season not a week..lol..

  4. There are so many references to the wife. You must know her well to care for her so much – A

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