I think my husband is aroused by the fact I there is a very high chance that might be sleeping with other men. To be clear, I am not. I ended a 1.5 year relationship 9 months ago. During that whole time, my spouse touched me 6 times for sexual purposes, twice of which he spent enough time to make me orgasm and lasted longer than 3-4 minutes.
Now, forget that I had repeatedly ‘told’ him I had a lover; circumstances have been that over the last few weeks I have been going out a lot. And by a lot I mean at least 4-5 times during the week and it seems at least 2-3 evenings as well. I happen to be meeting up with friends who have been traveling and passing through town, meeting old work friends for dinners and going out with the girls to a house warming party or a baby shower.
But it means I am not getting home until 2-3AM or I am spending the night out entirely as if I have had a few cocktails, then a few of us just end up sleeping over. And by sleeping over, I mean staying up all night talking about men, kids, relationships, sex and having a giggle festival where your face and stomach end up hurting the next day from laughing so much.
If I come home sweaty from dancing or grubby from hanging around smokers, then I shower before coming into bed. Or I might not see him until the next evening at dinner time, and his reaction to me is the same. More sexual interest than he has shown in a very long time. And by very long time I mean perhaps 14 years ago for a brief period of about 2-3 months.
He is asking things like “Did you have fun”, but said in a suggestive way. Or asking me if I need any muscle aches rubbed out “from too much activity”, as his hands start to massage by lower back, hips and ass which is his tell tale indicator of potential arousal. He doesn’t ask where I was or who I was with or what I was doing. He just makes these odd little comments that if anything, makes it seem like he is kind of interested, but not in specific details.
The man has had erections. Most people take a man’s erection for granted because they come easily and often for most men. But there are those out there, including my spouse who has been both mentally and physically castrated for so many years, that I was at first unbelieving of it. Then I was suspicious of his hard on, as he means he has obviously been secretly taking Viagra.
None of his erections actually led to sex as I am enforcing the new rule of no sexual intercourse for him, unless he uses toys on me to make me cum before he can gain entry inside of my vagina. I have completely removed ANY chance of giving him oral sex until he changes long enough for me to see a major shift in his sexual thinking, so I highly doubt I will ever suck him off again. He is a selfish person in bed, combined with the fact his premature ejaculation issues are compounded by lack of sexual relief as he does without for weeks and sometimes months, on end. And if the toy rule was not in effect, he would cum and go within 2-3 minutes, so it’s not like I would ever even stand a chance at arousal let alone orgasm.
So unless he has secretly decided to chew on Viagra instead of tic tac’s, I think he likes the idea of my going out and cat’ing around and coming home tired and sore from too much sex and it makes him want to jump me because of his newly acquired stiff dick. Of course when I said this to him, tried to talk about it? he immediately denied it and said he is always interested in sex/me and we/he have no sexual problems between us (this is how you spell denial).
I am not sure what to do with this new ‘almost’ information, I have been made aware of, yet. Maybe test it a bit more? See what the reaction is I get? Do I tease him a bit about it? Taunt him? Do I imply I am being serviced by a stable of big cocked stallions? I am NOT letting him use me to cum in, unless he plays with me first…and so its only lead to sex once so far. This whole thing? It just puts me in a strange state of mind to be honest.